To All Those Who Keep On Asking When I'm Gonna Tie The Freaking Knot...? READ THIS!!!

That probably is the lengthiest title I've ever come up with. But, what the hell?!

I'm sure you already have an idea what this rant post is all about.

When I went home for my mother's birthday last month, I was overwhelmed to see my cousins, aunts and uncles from my mother's side. I don't see them that often coz I don't go home that much. And whenever I do, I don't spend most of my time with them.

But, "Overwhelmed" turned into "hmmm-i-don't-like-this-type-of-conversation-so-everyone-please-stop-it-before-i-go-haywire-and-kill-you-off".

Coz you know what? They were all asking me - each one of them - the bazillion dollar question : When am I going to get married?

Other similar questions include:
>>>Why are you still single? Is there something wrong with you? - Honestly, I can hear them even in their silence. I've acquired Edward Cullen's mind-hearing ability just so you know!
>>Are you married already?

And the worst question?

>>>Do you have children?

Aryt, lemme get this straight... I know I'm not in my best shape right now but it doesn't mean I've had bore kids with this body. Will you please stop stereotyping?

First, I took it as a joke. Then as a compliment (them showing concern for my well-being - ehem!). Until it became a nuisance, a disgusting version of "how are you?", annoying, extremely downright unbecoming, and I couldn't help but mumble what is wrong with you people?

I get pissed off and insulted when people keep on asking that stupid question again and again and again like getting married is ALL THAT MATTERS.

If being married is the next best thing to internet, no one would have ever invented divorce.

Don't get me wrong. I dreamt of walking down the aisle one day. But if it's not for me, then I'm not gonna cry and lock myself in solitude just because of some people's notion that being single is pathetic! Being married is both a choice and a decision. The same logic applies if I wanted to stay single for now. Being married is not a measure of how you fared in life, in your career, in your journey. But being single can get me to most places, even to the promotion ladder. Being married is not the be all and end all of being a woman. But I believe being single is. Because you do things for your self, you get things done all by your self, you feel happy and contented with your self. And most of all, you can be happy and live your own life with your self.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having someone in your life. But surely there is something WRONG with people who think that a woman like me should join the marriage bandwagon because that is the rightful thing to do.

Oh crap! This is the 21st century...

From which era are you?

And hey! I'm not totally single. I'm with someone. And were totally happy even without the paper.

A dose of adventure with colleagues

The adrenalin junkie in me kicked in (after a long time) last weekend when my colleagues and I decided to swung by a place in the North of Cebu for some dose of adventure. Our wandering feet got us to Esoy Hotspring, a secluded resort in the hilly suburb of Catmon. Just an hour ride from the city, we were treated to a quiet retreat topped with a dip on a hot spring.

Dip in the hotspring.

The truth is, we were wondering if we were dipping in an "authentic" hot spring. From what we know, hot spring exists if there is an active volcano near the area. But we were surprised. Celso, the owner of the resort told us that the heat came from a natural source. He began to explain it - scientifically, and i was just standing there in awe trying to absorb everything he said. :) Aryt... next time, no skipping of science classes.

Braving my way through the hanging bridge

Just as we were about to go trekking, the rain suddenly poured. Yes, in the middle of summer! And the crystal waters in the creek turned into not-so-crystal-anymore. Frustrating. But... It didn't stop us. Indeed we got our heart's content. We crossed the hanging bridge, climbed the rugged boulders, swam the creek while thinking if I'll ever get out alive. I'm not a swimmer. I don't know a single thing about swimming. Thanks to the life vest though and to my colleague who tirelessly tugged me out to the shallow part.

after the rain

Before the rain

 

On our way back to the resort we met a bunch of local TV crew taping for an episode of their morning show. Two days later, we saw our faces on TV hahahaha! Great deal!

It was an awesome treat for all of us. The fun, the laughter, the experience, the dose of adventure we had is worth repeating.

I would gladly do this again.